Today the boys are one year corrected age. Most preemie parents I know celebrate today - some go as far as to have a party. But Jordan and I feel the opposite - today is a day we don't really want to be reminded of.
We don't want to think about the fact that the boys "should" have been born today (or in the case of twins 3 weeks before today). If they had been born somewhere near a year ago today, their lives, all of our lives really, would be so different. Not only different, but easier, especially for Asher.
But there is no point in focussing on the "what ifs" because there is nothing we can do to change it now. So instead I will focus on the fact that we have an amazing set of 15 month old twins. Not "1 year corrected" but 15 whole months alive and with us. Sure things are harder and taking longer for them to learn, but what matters is that they are strong and brave and PERFECT JUST AS THEY ARE - 14 weeks early. When they were born makes no difference to how loved they are and what amazing additions to this family they have been.
So February 4, screw you. It's just another day - a day that we love our boys unconditionally, no matter what their age is.
I agree...I never celebrated the should have been birthday.
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ReplyDeleteWe don't celebrate out twins should be birthday. We celebrate the days they came home from the NICU. We have a special dessert and talk to our older daughter about why the day is special. I love to look at their pictures from a little over a year ago. They were so tiny and fragile looking. I'll never celebrate the day they should have been born, it would be too painful.
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