I'm sharing a really great article I saw posted by Graham's Foundation, a preemie charity I am in love with and will eventually do a separate post on. This is an article on what not to say to the parents of a preemie.
A lot of people, when faced with someone they know having a preemie (especially ones as small as ours) say some probably well meaning, yet awkward things. I have heard a variation of every single one of the points in this article (including #10 way back in the day!), and you know what, it STILL hurts. It doesn't matter if your preemies are no longer 2 pounds, I have the feeling that remembering that painful time when they were never goes away.
Recently a mom from Rio's preschool asked me why the boys were early. She apparently didn't realize she was asking something inappropriate (let's face it, most people don't, hence why they say dumb things), but I was at a loss for words. I stumbled out the explanation, then cried the whole walk home. Really lady, if anyone has a micro-preemie (or any preemie for that matter) it's a traumatic event, so do you think that is an ok question to ask someone you barely know? Unfortunately, a simple word like "why" leaves the asker's lips, but yet by the time it reaches the preemie mom's ears, she hears something more along the lines of "What did you do wrong?" or "Why couldn't you prevent this?".
Anyway, clearly, prematurity is a difficult subject for me and anyone else who's been through it. So give the article a read! I know most of you know better than this, but just a little reminder :)