The other night we took the kids for a drive. Jordan and the boys had been sick and everyone needed out of the house. We made a big deal of it and stopped for ice cream, so five minutes later when the sugar started setting in, the kids were talking a mile a minute.
All of a sudden, up piped Asher, with no reference to anything we'd been talking about.
"I'm running away!".
And as quickly as I said "Where are you running to Ash?", Rio said "Ashy why would you be running away? You can't run".
The car got silent. I said "Ri...." and then looked to Jordan for advice.
Was it ok to reprimand her? She shouldn't be in trouble for stating a fact, but it's a pretty insensitive fact. Does a 6 year old who happens to be one of the most sensitive people I know understand what insensitive means? No.
So Jordan, in all of his wisdom responded "Rio, you need to think about what you say".
Message was received without any further discussion. The next thing out of her mouth was "Ashy where are you running to?" and when he said "the city" they talked the remainder of the trip home about all of the places in the city he could be running to.
Later when I brought it up with Rio, she knew. She didn't need an explanation about what she had said, she understood.
She's six. She's learning. And she's doing a pretty good job of it. It's a never ending learning curve for all of us.
You guys amaze me.
ReplyDeleteThose kids of yours are pretty amazing. I want to point out that they come by it naturally because you and J are pretty amazing too. (((Hugs)))
ReplyDeleteRio you are beautiful xx I often find myself correcting so many random sayings by replacing the word walk or run with knee walk! The other day in sport at Coopers school the teacher was explaining the rules and said " run" as fast as you can.... Then changed it quickly to " move" as fast as you can! Cooper believes he can run its just not how we do it!
ReplyDeleteThe oldest girl in the family always "knows". It is our job to be sensitive. There is a story about me where a neighbor asked if I would like some ice cream - and I said "Only if Cynthia and Sarah [my sisters] can have some too". :)
ReplyDeleteUs oldest sibling looks out for the others, it's in our DNA. Rio is a superstar though - what a bounce back for a 6 year old.
This post brought tears to my eyes. Rio, you are amazing!! Asher is so lucky to have such an incredible family.
ReplyDeleteBron - I LOVE your suggestion of just replacing the verb with "move", that is brilliant and so simple.
ReplyDelete