Thursday, June 19, 2014

Ten Years

Ten years ago today, Jordan and I were married. What a milestone. A decade! (not to mention another five before that!). It's safe to say that in the past ten years we've been through some tough times that may have broken other couples. But not us. Because amongst the "in bad times" there's also been an incredible amount of "in good times" - and we've learned to find blessings in everything else.

On that beautiful, hot day in June 2004 we had the whole world ahead of us and great plans for the future. We were young and carefree, having no idea what that future would entail. I married the man of my dreams, and even though some of those dreams changed vastly, we are stronger - both together and separately - than we were then.

Last night, reminiscing together, I gave Jordan a scenario: It's the night before our wedding and someone sits us down and lists everything our two naive souls are going to encounter in the first ten years of marriage. There is no explanation of the happy times amongst the chaos, no assurance that we will find silver linings in the greyest clouds - just a laundry list of challenges. Then we're given the choice to cut and run now, or stick it out. Jordan's response to that hypothetical scenario was simple and without hesitation: "I'd have stayed". That says it all, doesn't it? That's why we're together and stronger than ever.

To quote part of our wedding ceremony:

"May the challenges of your life together be met with courage and optimism. May you learn from your failures and grow in your achievements. May life bless you with children, friends and family. May you face pain and trouble with a strong, but light heart, and may you always share your joy and laughter with others."

I am immensely proud of how we've honoured that advice. Although each of us is far from perfect, and our marriage is far from perfect, we chose each other for a reason. As we enter the next decade of our marriage, we once again don't know what's in store. But we will face whatever it is together. 

We're off tomorrow to celebrate for the weekend with friends at the place we got married. Here's hoping for warm sun, cool drinks, some sleep (we're all going without kids) and a lot of laughter. I can't think of a better way to usher in the next ten years.

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