Thursday, July 30, 2015

Kindness by the Foot(long)

Here's a feel-good story for you...

Today I had the kids downtown for physiotherapy, and had to grab a quick lunch for afterwards since we had some running around to do. Subway seemed fast, cheap, and perfect. We made it just before we all melted into big puddles of sweat because it was SO HOT downtown today, and let me tell you that pushing a wheelchair is not as easy as it looks. You really notice hills you didn't know existed when you are pushing a chair on a hot day!

We got to Subway and there were a couple of young construction workers in line, but I didn't pay much attention. Before long, I noticed the one closest to us was staring at Asher - like didn't take his eyes off of him - but with a smile on his face. Not in a rude way, but in a “man this kid is cute” kind of way. I didn’t even really make eye contact with him because a) I’m a snob and b) I wasn’t sure if I should be creeped out or not. He tried to talk to Asher, but because Asher is shy with strangers, the conversation didn't go far.

We all finished having our sandwiches made and after he was done at the till, he turned to me and said “Oh I bought your sandwiches”. I just stared at him and said “WHAT???” not knowing what else to say! He replied, “Oh I just wanted to. You look like you’re maybe not having the best day and your little guy is REALLY cute”.  I just kept thanking him profusely while shaking my head in disbelief and we all said goodbye and went on our way. Seemed kind of uneventful but I didn't know what else to do?!

I was very touched, and stunned, and talked about it with Rio as we were walking back to pick up Nolan. We discussed the fact that he said I didn't look like I was having the best day, and I wasn't sure whether I should be offended by that because yes I was hot and sweaty, but I didn't realize I looked that bad! But then Asher piped up and said "I took my frown off" -- and then it hit me. I HAD been having a bad day earlier in the morning - a really, really bad day - with Asher in particular. The kind of morning that made me question whether I was cut out to be a good enough mom for Asher as we had an ongoing battle for the 300th time and both of us ended up not very nice or respectful to each other. How had I forgotten that that was how my day had started?!

Yes, I know it's hard to believe this angelic face can channel the devil sometimes, but he can I tell you, HE CAN!

Rio and I concluded that this young man in front of us must be a very good reader of energy and although I didn't think I looked particularly worn out, maybe my energy showed that in fact, my day had not been great. It also got me wondering why he was so enamored by Asher. I mean the kid is cute, don't get me wrong, but this guy was really taken by him. Did he have a friend or a cousin or someone else in his life with a disability and for that reason Asher spoke to him? Or was he just having the kind of day where he felt like helping someone that he thought could use a little help? Whatever the reason, it is not lost on me that the universe is pretty good at showing you that the world can be good and kind, especially when you need to hear it, but are totally not expecting it. I'd say this makes up for the day that I recently had two full-blown-flailing-screaming-kicking-biting-tantrum-ing boys downtown and no one stopped to help me?!!

People are really great sometimes, aren't they?!

1 comment:

  1. Love this! For what it's worth, I've had those kinds of days with my guys. I'm glad the universe found a way to remind you that you're pretty awesome. Many hugs.